I have created a short list of dramatic changes in my life following graduation. While these things may not be surprising to some people, they have been hard pills to swallow for myself (and maybe others, too). And if you’re completely thriving after graduation, then this probably doesn’t apply to you, but to each their own. Feel free to give it a read. Or don’t. I’m not in control of your life.
If you haven’t read my bio yet, here is a little about myself to help you get a better understanding of where I am at in my life: My name is Giavanna Accardo, I am 22 years old, and I recently graduated from the University of Michigan in August 2019. I spent 4 years working my ass (sorry mom) off to get a Bachelor’s Degree in Communication and Media Studies.
I believe we expect so much following graduation. It seems like we always have to be doing better than the next person, and honestly, I blame social media for this. While I do like to stay updated on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, we waste time comparing ourselves to each other in an unhealthy way. Just because you’re not where you want to be at doesn’t mean it isn’t where you’re meant to be. Everything is happening exactly how it should.
Anywho- all of the highs and lows over the last few years placed me exactly where I am now, so here is what they (who is they?) didn’t tell me after graduation:
1. You might not get a job
This one seems pretty obvious, I know. However, being that I graduated from the #1 public university in the nation, this one was really difficult for me to accept. I was always told that a Michigan degree will get me pretty much anywhere. What a load of crap. While I am confident that it will pay off in the long run, it isn’t getting me anywhere right now. But I honestly can only blame myself for the situation I am in. Long story short, my graduation date was delayed for August because I decided to study abroad. In turn, I also held off on thoroughly looking for a job. Not saying I wasn’t looking, but I didn’t attend as many recruiting and networking events as I should have. Every action has its consequences; I definitely lived and learned. Go to that event, talk to people, put yourself out there.
I have now been officially graduated for almost 2 months now, and I am still jobless. It honestly has been really difficult because I am used to having a set schedule and following a routine.
2. You might have to move back home
I just spent the past 4 years pretty much living on my own, so the LAST thing I wanted to do was move back home (still love you mom). I was finally getting used to living off a granola bar and a pack of ramen every single day. I’ve been living with my 5 best friends for the past 3 years and I had to give all of that up and move back home. This was definitely my biggest adjustment. Not only am I unemployed, but I also am living with my mom and step dad again. I never pictured myself moving back home after graduation, but here I am. Don’t get me wrong, I love the comfort of being in my own home and being surrounded by old friends and family, but sometimes I feel like I am taking a step back. I’m almost too comfortable being here. I struggle trying to focus and my energy has been at an all time low lately. The crazy Michigan weather does not help either.
3. You learn to be grateful for everything you have
This one is my biggest blessing. While I have been going through a lot of adjustments, and I feel like they are having a negative impact on my life, I am learning to be thankful for it all. No I may not have a career, BUT I do have a part-time job, making money, and keeping busy as much as I can. I may not be living on my own anymore, BUT I have a loving family who is willing to let me stay with them as long as I need. They care for me, feed me, support me, and are giving me this time to figure out who I am and what I want to do. If you’re a go-getter like myself, then these adjustments may seem haunting to you, too. Having this opportunity to take a step back and reflect over the past four years has been such a blessing. What is the rush to get a job and move across the country anyways? We are young! We do not need to have it all figured out. If you are in the same position as myself, or if you’re still in school, please take the time to surround yourself with people who love you, who support you regardless of your situation, and don’t be upset because of where you’re at in life.
I am healthy. I am here. I am figuring it out. Things may not be happening how I thought they would, but God has a plan, and she is working on something real good for me. Trust the process.